Pondering the Neighbours

My upstairs neighbours were at it again when I left for work this morning. Yelling at each other. It's become a regular thing lately, first thing in the morning - it used to just be on weekends.

My parents have never fought like that. I can't remember them fighting at all in fact! Mom DID lock herself in the bathroom once long ago when my dad had been teasing her a bit too much, but that's about it. We were never shouted at as kids either, and to this day I find it hard to fight with someone verbally. I'd rather just shut up.

Perhaps other marriages are different. Maybe shouting at your spouse is normal and natural. To me it seems very disrespectful though. I don't think I could take that at all! I'd probably walk away if my spouse started yelling in my face, and tell him to talk to me with respect when he's calmed down - which, if he hasn't grown up in the type of family I have, might make things worse, come to think of it...

I dunno though. Maybe yelling is good for you. Gets all that stuff out instead of letting it seethe inside for a while and turn you bitter. It's just not me.