Cutting out the Middle-(Wo)man

It's happened - my son's dad has contacted me after 11+ years of silence. I gave my card to his brother when he dropped off my son's present a few weeks back, and we've been emailing. Our only previous contact has been via his mom - and that wasn't much.

A few years ago this would not have happened. I would have panicked to see his name in my inbox. My greatest fear was that he'd turn up and take my son from me. I had a momentary heart-jump when I saw his first email.

But now I'm OK with this! We're chatting like friends, and he's still a great guy. I honestly don't have anything against the chap - no hard feelings, no anger, nothing. We had fun when we were together, and can still talk it seems.

My one concern is that his wife may not be comfy with it. I want to tread lightly and make it easy for her to feel fine with our being in touch. I don't want to upset their apple-cart.

He's mentioned he'll be in SA later this year and would like to meet up. I said fine, will be cool, J will love that.

I'm actually amazed at how laid-back I am with this - no worries mate! Strange... considering that hearing from him used to haunt my dreams for years.