Pre-mourning

This may sound terrible, but if I have ONE more person come in here with a long face, bearing flowers, and act as if my mom's already died, I may scream!

She's still alive! Her spirits are fine - she hasn't yet died. And although I can understand the sadness at her potential moving on from this life, and realize a lot of folk love her dearly, the mourning-in-advance is starting to get to me.

I may be completely insensitive, not realize the gravity of the situation or, indeed, be "way to chirpy" (according to my sis-in-law) in the face of disaster. Maybe I have a cold, hard heart and am not "mourning properly". Fact is, I've made my peace with everything, and distance has its advantages.

The time to mourn has not yet come. It WILL come, and then you're welcome to tear up every time you see me - but, in the immortal words of Aragorn "today is not that day!".

So please, celebrate who she still is, rejoice that she's still in good spirits, and that she is surrounded by those who love her. Be there for her, and sure - dread her passing, reflect on losing the presence she is. But mourn later, not now.

(And please, don't try to hug me every time I pass. I'm not really the touchy-feely type and your attempt at tickling/hugging only hurt my ribs...)