Seeking a MAN???

I thought I was seeking Serenity, but this afternoon, by some odd chance (perhaps a passing black hole or time anomoly) I found myself browsing a few dating sites (and at the mention of dating, watch the contents of that green bar under "advertising" to the right go one way! ;) ).

Why?

Beats me.

It's not like I'm lonely or desperate or have a ticking clock or anything. I've had my alloted one kid, I've had my wild-oats period, and I'm pretty self-sufficient thanks. But I have been wondering how people my age meet other people, and especially how single moms with nearing-teendom kids do it.

I ain't gonna hang out in no bars, thanks! And the internet is often the equivalent of a seedy bar... But I know there's cool folk out there, and wouldn't mind making some new friends. However one doesn't just throw oneself out on the street with a "MEET ME!" sign around the neck.

So I ended up on the dating sites today. For a change, I went for the Green Dating ones - all the treehuggers, meditators, crystal-gazers, musicians and free spirits. One can almost understand why a lot of them are still single...

But who am I to judge? I'M still single too! And that could say "weirdo" to any number of the population.

And then I took a step back from my quick judgement-by-profile, after having dismissed 10 pages of options as unsuitable. I started to wonder why exactly I was put off by whatever profile or photo I browsed. What, exactly, is it I'm looking for?

The ones I found attractive had more to do with their sense of humour, open mind, lack of obvious desperation and (safe) distance from here than anything else (a non-scraggly-bear appearance and certain indicators of good hygiene also helped). I'm not after a hunk (too vain) or Mr Perfect (yeah, right!). In fact, I'm not sure WHAT I'm after. And therein lies the problem.

No wonder I'm still single.